Regret is a funny thing. It isn’t something that can really be described. Of course Google defines it as: a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done. But I think that that definition should have something in there about “that has happened, been done, or didn’t happen.” For me, my biggest regrets are the things that I didn’t get to do. And the people I didn’t get to do it with.
I don’t want to look back on my life and try to think about things that I have done in my life. I want them to all be so obvious that it doesn’t need any forethought. That I don’t have to dig into the recesses of my mind to find the one exciting thing that happened in my life. Because if there is only one exciting that that happened in my life, then I missed too many opportunities. I missed to many chances to be “that person”.
You all know that person. It’s the person who never turns down anything. Whether it is the stupidest idea in the whole world or the one thing that could change the world. This person does anything and everything. This is the person you turn to when you just need someone to tell you that you have a great idea and that they would love to try it with you. They don’t try to talk you out of anything, and instead join you on the craziest activites. Especially the crazy activities.
Now I’m not saying that this person you are looking for is an adrenaline junkie or someone who does it to impress people or even someone who just does it because everyone tells them to. Trust me, you will know the person when you talk to them. It might be your best friend or it might just be an acquiantance. And the person you are looking for doesn’t, in fact isn’t normally, the same person another turns to. You need to find the person who fits your personality the most. This person should push you to do more than you yourself think you can do. This person shouldn’t tell you what to do, but give you confidence to do it. And if you can’t do it, they should stay with you and you guys will just try it next time. And there will be a next time because this person will make sure there is a next time. They will keep making a “next time” until you finally have the courage to do it.
Lets say that the activity is skydiving: This person should stand next to you on the plane. This person shouldn’t push you out but tell you that you can do it. They should reassure about your abilities. This person is the one that doesn’t jump out of the plane until you already have so that you don’t feel stranded. And if you don’t do it, this person won’t leave you feeling like a coward. They will tell you that they were just as scared and secretly hoped that you would back out. Even if they were really looking forward to to. Especially then.
That person is the person I want to be. I want to be the person who will do anything. I want to be the person who will have no regrets about an opportunity they didn’t try. I want to be the person somebody turns to when they need a partener. I want to be the person with no reservations.
I want to be that person.
(phot credit to: http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/one-big-thing-will-save-regret/)